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Divorced Dads - To Date, or Not To Date? That Is The Question.

Most everyone seems to have a difficult time getting back into the "dating game" after a divorce.  For those dads among us who have taken an active role in fighting the abuses of the family law court system pertaining to child custody post-divorce, this is even more of a challenge.

The reality of this country is this:  most women seem to resent fathers who want their children-to these dads,  their kids come first, as they should.

From my personal experiences, women, particularly those who are divorced, seem to be looking for one or more of the following:

1.  Mr Movie Star.  The guy had to be physically attractive to get their time of day, or else forget it.

2.  Mr. Moneybags. The guy has to have loads of money to spend on her, or else forget it.

3.  Mr. Pursuit.  This guy has to "chase" the woman.  For some idiotic reason, far too many women seem to feel that they must be "pursued".  Good luck with that, ladies.

I will take my hat off to those of you who failed at the first marriage attempt, and have somehow managed to find "the right one" this time, hopefully, and try it again.  I hope it works out for all of you.

In reality, re-marriage seems to happen fairly quickly, within a couple of years, or not at all.  

Personally, I have been told by several prospective girlfriends that they and their kids would come first, and "to heck" with mine.  I have also been told, by more than one, that she could not possibly stand to have a boyfriend who actually wanted`his' kids at home with him.

In my humble opinion, women, those in Michigan in particular, have a serious attitude problem when it comes to looking for men.  Most men will not fall into one of the three categories above-leaving most people single, which is not a bad thing, but is far from what most of us desire. 

Mr. "average man" has little, if any, chance out there today.  And, if he happens to advocate against the abuses committed by our family courts, he may as well hang it up.  I speak with other father advocates who relay the same message to me-they have given up on dating, much less on ever finding a compatible lady to spend their life with.

It seems to me that if this "forced perception" of divorced fathers was brought back to into the realm of reality, that we all would be much better off. This perception is inflicted upon us all by today's media and the courts themselves.

America, this needs to change.

A Father Of Two

Recommended Reading:

Dating for Dads: The Single Father's Guide to Dating Well Without Parenting Poorly

Can Women Rape Men?

Can Women Rape Men?  Is it even possible?  Sadly, some think that if the male had an erection he must have wanted it from the female and therefore could not be classified as rape.

Rape to a male by a female can occur if the male was unable or unwilling to consent to sex.  This can happen when they are 1) Under the age of consent (varies by state). 2) Handicapped or physically limited. 3) Impaired by alcohol or drugs.  4) Forced or coerced by a woman

Stimulation alone can cause a male to have an erection even if the stimulation is forced.  This is a scientific fact.  Males can have two types of erections psychogenic and reflex.  A reflex erection occurs when there is direct physical contact with the penis, ears, nipples or neck and is completely involuntary.  A reflex erection can occur without desire or sexual stimulating thoughts.  The ability to have this simple reflex is located in the sacral nerves (S2-S4) of the spinal cord.  Males can also become erect if they are on certain drugs or forced to take them.  They can also become erect by certain states of relaxation, anxiety, in certain stages of sleep, etc.

Review a compiled list by WND of the rape and/or sexual assault of over 100 males by females.

Sadly many males do not report that they were raped.   

Obviously any victim of rape should seek immediate medical and law enforcement help.

Several Resources to Review:

Stop Abuse for Everyone

Myths About Male Rape Victims

Wikipedia Violence Against Men

RADAR

Abused Men

That Bitch by Roy Sheppard and Mary Cleary

In Britain, this book is called "That Bitch: Protect Yourself Against Women with Malicious Intent". This book is burning up the charts.  It has already received extensive (and positive) media coverage in the female sections of various British and Irish newpapers. "Reasonable women don’t seem to have a problem with the title, because they know it’s not about them! Indeed one British woman customer purchased 7 copies to give as gifts to her girl friends!"

You can buy this book in the United States on Amazon.com.

Book's Website

Angela Pedersen, R.N.

This Step-Mom is loved and appreciated!

Being a step-mother is sometimes a thankless job and I am sure many step-parents feel this at one time or another.  I am amazed by the strength of my wife, who is step-mother to my two incredible children.  I thank God for how wonderful she is as a wife and also how awesome she is with my children.  I could not have asked for anyone better to share my life with.

Amazing!  At our daycare for the kids she was given a mother's day gift to pass along to my children's mother.  No recognition for step-parents?  Angela came home and placed this mother's day gift on the counter for us to pass along to the children's mom on mother's day.  I am very proud of how she responded to this.  Being a step-parent is especially difficult when you are on the side of having to worry about child support.  The stress of staying current on child support affects more than just me. 

On this mother's day don't forget to thank the step-moms as well.  They are EQUALLY important in a child's life and upbringing.  I appreciate everything she does and love her for everything she is. 

I thought I would share a special video that I made for Angela from our wedding day.  It was the most awesome day of my life!  So much fun! We wanted it to be a very private and small wedding so only a few people were invited.  I will never forget this day.  We still do not have a penny to our name and loads of stress, yet I would not trade this for anything.

Make an on-line slide show at www.OneTrueMedia.com

Here is a fantastic resource for all step-parents to check out.  National Stepfamily Resource Center

Also check out:  EQUAL Parenting Bike Trek

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