**From a NEW author writing for DaddyBlogger.com!!** "A Father of Two" Be sure to tell us what you think and comment below - requires NO account.
August has been proclaimed as "Child Support Awareness Month" in Michigan and throughout the United States.
Michigan's Family Law Court System would have you continue to support the outdated, biased, and stereotyped notion that a divorced, non-custodial parent (about 85% of the time the father), is good for nothing other than paying child support dollars into the system.
This is done to maximise the federal incentive dollars awarded to the states under Title IV-D of the Social Security System, which rewards every state for forcibly removing a fit, willing, and able parent from the life of his or her children.
"Supporting" your child does not come down to a divorced parent having a large part of their paycheck taken into this system to justify financial rewards.
Reasons to Support Shared Parenting
As a father of two, the following is my take on what "child support" really is, from A to Z. I hope you take the following to heart. These are just some of what I do, as a divorced, non-custodial father, to "support" my children.
A. Show AFFECTION for your children. Give them an ALLOWANCE for doing their chores.
B. Give them a proper BREAKFAST to start the day with. Make BATH time a fun, and clean experience.
C. CHALLENGE your children to rise to new heights. Increase their CONFIDENCE.
D. Appropriately and timely DISCIPLINE your children.
E. Set the proper EXAMPLE for them to learn by. Take them on ERRANDS with you.
F. Have FUN with your children.
G. GIGGLE and laugh with your kids. "GOOD JOB"-Praise them for good effort.
H. HUG your youngsters. Provide them a proper and safe HOME.
I. Embrace their INDEPENDENCE as they grow, but always be ready to wrap them in your arms.
J. JOKE with your children. Enjoy the lighter side of things.
K. KIDS will be KIDS. Let them be the wonderful youngsters they are.
L. LOVE your children. Tell them "I love you", often, and mean it!! Give them a nutritious LUNCH.
M. Teach them the proper MANNERS-to be courteous and respectful.
N. Learn how to say "NO" when necessary. Take them to enjoy the NEON signs of a fair or circus.
O. Take the unique OPPORTUNITY to shape the lives of your youngsters.
P. PROTECT them from harm. PROPERLY PARENT them.
Q. Give them a good QUALITY of life.
R. The "THREE R'S"-Reading, writing, arithmatic. Help them with and supervise their homework.
S. SUPPER, together, every night, as a family.
T. Give them your TIME. TEACH them right from wrong.
U. UNDER the covers-safely tucked into bed every night.
V. Take them with you when you VOTE. Take your children on VACATION with you.
W. WATCH television with your kids. Don't use it as a baby sitter.
X. Take them for X-RAYS, if they, heaven forbid, fall out of their favorite tree.
Y. Teach them how to use a YO-YO. Simple things are often the most rewarding.
Z. Take your children on a fun day trip to a ZOO. Fun for the whole family!!
Of course, there are hundreds of ways to truly "support your children". The system just wants to garnish the non-custodial parent's paycheck.
Help us say NO to Michigan's Family Law Court System. Denying a child the love, care, guidance, and nurturing of a fit, willing, and able parent is child abuse!
As A Father Of Two, I am the new guy on the block here. I will enjoy posting to you all from time to time.
A FATHER OF TWO.
Right on!!!!
The responsibility to raise one's own children is the parents. Michigan's family law court system has NO RIGHT to interfere with this fundamental and God-given right.
Billions of dollars to remove a fit, willing, and able parent from the lives of his or her children. What type of message is being sent to the American people?
Simple. Money is what matters most-for the judges and the courts; for the "custodial" parents to spend on whatever they choose. It doesn't have to be on their children. For all the FOC employees, the conciliators, custody evaluators, attorneys, psychologists, and all the other "experts" on what is best for children suffering from a divorced and otherwise broken home. It doesn't matter if the children are in a safe and loving home, if they are doing well in school, or if they are clean and well-fed. Just so the dollars keep rolling into the system.....
Phillip Wurm
West Michigan Regional Director, A Child's Right, www.achildsright.net
Posted by: Phillip N. Wurm | August 10, 2008 at 12:03 AM