When it comes to the divorce of two parents that have children people think of the two parents and the children in the middle of the divorce.
In order for the state and the court system to make money through Title IV-D federal incentives, one of the fit and willing parents must be forced into the role of the non-custodial parent. Sadly, children go from seeing this parent on a daily basis and then suddenly the typical 4-6 days a month. Children have the fundamental right to be loved, guided, nurtured and educated equally by both fit and willing parents after a divorce. To deny this is child abuse.
The pain of this child abuse also affects the parents of the non-custodial parent. Grandparents are then forced to see less of their grandchildren. This is abusive not only to the children but to the grandparents as well. Grandparents, from both sides of the family tree, play an important role in the development of their grandchildren. How do grandparents in this situation deal with all of this pain? The pain of seeing their child become a non-custodial parent and being forced away from their child by no choice of their own or the child's. Grandparents must also endure the pain of seeing less of their own grandchildren.
Grandparent are increasingly becoming involved in the Shared Parenting movement and are joining in the fight against child abuse that is sponsored by a bitter spouse and the court system.
I encourage all grandparents to visit SCOPE - Senior Citizens Organization for Parental Equality and become involved in what is in the best interest of their grandchildren. Another organization that I can personally recommend is Three Sides to Every Story, Inc. Grandparents! There is a place for you to make a difference.