Non-custodial Parents - How YOU Can Become Involved?

Every blog post, guest opinion and letter to the editor written by parental advocates bring the same request: "HELP ME." The request that should be asked is: "I want to become involved in this fight.  My family and my children and I have been wronged by Michigan's family law court system.  I want this abuse to stop, and I want to help."

EVERYONE is either personally affected by this judicial abuse, or has a relative, friend, neighbor, or co-worker who is. If you do not, you are in a very small minority.

What can you do to become involved in this struggle?

Become ACTIVE and INVOLVED.  How?

FIRST- TELL TWO PEOPLE, EVERY SINGLE DAY, WHAT HAS HAPPENED TO YOU, YOUR CHILDREN, AND YOUR FAMILY. Tell this to your family members, friends, neighbors, and co-workers.

SECOND-WRITE YOUR ELECTED OFFICIALS.  Start with your state representative, state senator, and the governor.  Do NOT just email or call them.  WRITE them an actual letter, and KEEP WRITING them, even after you have received any reply.  You can then move on to your county commissioner.  Do NOT give up after one or two letters.  Be PERSISTANT, and DEMAND answers as to why the abuses continue.

THIRD-WRITE YOUR LOCAL NEWSPAPER, TELEVISION AND RADIO STATIONS.  Tell them the abuses inflicted upon your family, your children, and yourself by our family law court system.  Ask them to investigate and report the abuse.  Again, BE PERSISTANT!!

FOURTH-WRITE A LETTER TO THE EDITOR of your local newspaper.  Make public the abuses inflicted upon your family and yourself.  Once you have a letter printed, use it as a building block, and continue writing them.

WHAT SHOULD YOU TELL AND WRITE ALL OF THESE PEOPLE ABOUT?

1. Michigan's family law court system is inflicting child abuse daily by removing a loving, fit, able, and willing parent from the lives of his or her children.

2.  Under the financial rewards and incentives of Social Security Title IV-D, every state receives MILLIONS OF DOLLARS to strip parents from the life of their children. These taxpayer dollars come from the pockets of EVERY taxpayer in the U.S.

3.  Your local Friend of the Court is the first step in the cycle of abuse.  A FOC Conciliator will recommend which parent is to be custodial, and which will be non-custodial.  The facts of the individual case do not matter, and the FOC will choose what, if anything, they truly investigate.

4.  False allegations of domestic violence are commonly used by one party to try to gain an advantage in a custody situation.  The system encourages this, and often rewards a custodial parent for making such fradulent claims, without any proof or evidence.

5.  PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME  is real.  It is NOT a fable. Children ARE being alienated and torn from a parent by the other, to reap the rewards of child custody, child support, desiring to harm the other parent regardless of the consequences to their child(ren), and an insane need to completely control their child's life, regardless of the other parent's necessary and essential input.

These are just some of the issues you can speak with others and write about.  Educate yourself on these topics if you are not already fully informed on them. The truth and the facts are publicly available.

Do NOT continue to sit there, cry, and complain.  Do NOT just try to get some relief from your personal case and then stop your activities-the system will continue, and any relief will be short-lived.

Only with CONSISTANT and PERSISTANT action and involvement will the abuses ever be corrected.

YOU must choose-will you continue to sit idly by, and continue to be part of the problem, or will you become an active and involved paticipant in this fight, and strive to be a part of the solution?

The suggestions I listed above are just a part of what you can do and should be doing.  I have done all of these, and much beyond.

IF I CAN DO ALL OF THE ABOVE, SO CAN YOU. 

A Father Of Two. 

Comments

[Robert Gartner]

Yes become involved. Know your enemies too. There are many groups out there who are attacking this PAS. They are fighting tooth and nail to discredit it and to keep it from being used in courts. I have a list of many of these predators. Some of the most powerful law firms are among them.

[Robert Gartner]

Many thanks for this subject--PAS. Beware of entities like Justice for Children-JFC. It has offices in Houston, Phoenix, D.C. and Michigan. They zealously reject PAS and seem to be sexist too. They have used the resources of members of law firms like Fulbright and Jaworski, Llp and Haynes and Boone, Llp to do their confused and demented work against targeted parents of parental alienation.

My daughter and I are two such victims of their predations.

There are others with whom JFC claims affinity. Among them are the National Organization of Women, Stop Family Violence, Courageous Kids, The Leadership Council, Children's Protection Alliance, attorney Richard Ducote, Eli Newberger, Dr. Paul Fink, Garland Waller, the Mary Kay Foundation.

[Ken]

My son is 15 and is currently failing 4 subjects in school, his mother (my ex-wife) is the custodial parent. She tells me she is handling the situation but according to the school has not made the child attend after school sessions to make up work. Is there any legal action I can take?

[TG]

Ken,

I am in a similar situation, only my 16 yr old's father is the custodial parent. He is failing 3 classes and by all indications is not being held responsible for anything. Last year the same thing was happening, his father's answer was to change his schools?! If you determine that you have some legal course of action, will you please share that with me? Thank you. TG

[mike jeffries]

Hi...

Don't know if this is appropriate but I thought you might want to share the information.

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We created the new website to coincide with the release of the book. If you have the old Hugs to Heartbreak website bookmarked, in your contact information, or as a link on your webpage, please replace it with this new URL. If you are interested in a link exchange, please go to http://www.afamilysheartbreak.com/resources/ and fill out the Submit a Resource form.

We wrote A Family's Heartbreak: A Parent's Introduction to Parental Alienation to raise the visibility of an issue that as you know, affects millions of parents, children and extended family members every year. We're confident A Family's Heartbreak: A Parent's Introduction to Parental Alienation will help anyone dealing with this very painful situation and educate the legal and mental health professionals involved in these cases.

If you order a copy, please provide a comment about the book on the new website or on Amazon. We look forward to your feedback.

Sincerely,

mike "jeff" jeffries
Author, A Family's Heartbreak: A Parent's Introduction to Parental Alienation.